Adding to my anxiety on the topic is the fact that there are articles with misleading headlines like this one - Many Teens Tell Survey They Are Addicted To Social Media, Texting - which recently appeared in the Washington Post. While the headline is a bit disconcerting, the content of the article makes it clear that this there is a lot more here that we need to discuss. Check out a few of the excerpts I think we need to focus more on and decide or yourself whether the negatives really outweighing the positive.
"Two-thirds of respondents said they text every day and half said they visit social networking sites daily. One-quarter of teens use at least two different types of social media a day."
"Three out of 10 teens said social networks made them feel more outgoing, compared to 5 percent who said they felt more introverted."
"Still, half of all respondents said real-life communication is the most fun and fruitful for their relationships. Only 4 percent prefer to talk on the phone."As I see my own tweens spending more and more time using their devices to interact with their friends, I can't help but think of the quote below by Danah Boyd. Is it really the devices and the social media platforms that they are addicted to or is it the communication with their friends?
It brings me back to Clay Shirky's thoughts on this topic from his book Cognitive Surplus: Creativity And Generosity In A Connected Age. I agree with Shirky on the following:
"when we talk about the effects of the web or text messages, it's easy to make a milkshake mistake and focus on the tools themselves...But the use of of social technology is much less determined by the tool itself: when we use a network, the most important asset we get is access to one another."I think the thing that our children need help with is learning when disconnecting is necessary to refocus and refresh. In addition, we need to be sure that they are getting plenty of technology-free opportunities for the rich face-to-face interactions and experiences that are so beneficial. This point is clearly articulated in a recent post by John Spencer titled What We're Missing In Acceptable Use.
What we need to understand is that our children are connecting and collaborating in ways that we were never capable of. Or as Shirky puts it:
"Although so much of what kids are doing online may look trivial and frivolous, what they are doing is building the capacity to connect, to communicate, and ultimately, to mobilize...The old idea that media is a domain relatively separate from the 'real world' no longer applies..."The bottom line here is that we are never going to be in a comfortable spot with our children if we do not continue to have discussions on this topic. We need to encourage our children to use these resources wisely and have balance, but we also have to understand that the way they communicate with one another not going to look like the same as how we communicated with our friends back in the day...and that's OK!